5 Things Things To Do With Your Gals

5 Things To Do With Your Gals

Family is extremely important, especially when you have children.  It’s important that everyone loves and appreciates one another.  Now, daughters can be a little tricky.  I don’t want to say it, but girls have a tender heart, especially once they begin entering their teen years.  Mine does anyway, lol.  Keeping a good, open, and honest relationship is important.

Having a relationship with your daughter(s) is important, regardless of whether they are 22 or 2.  They need mom in their lives, and mom needs them!  It’s a two-way street!  The needs become different; the older they get, the more they need a friend, someone to talk to who doesn’t judge, and someone to hug them when they’re sad.  Honestly, I prefer what a 2-year-old needs: mom, get me this; let me sit in your lap; hold me; play with me.  It’s often hard to talk about boys with my daughter, but I do it because I know there’s no magic bubble that I can put her in and send her back 7 years.  I guess the fact is that we grow with them.

5 Things Things To Do With Your Gals

5 Things To Do With Your Gals

Most of you know I have 3 girls!  I know right, how does dad do it?  They are all super beautiful, too!  My girls range from 13 all the way down to 2, yet we’re a close family and have so much fun together.  The difference in ages doesn’t cause problems; we’re still able to go out and have fun.  It’s important for all of us to stay connected, in one way or another.  I was looking at my oldest the other day, and man, it hit me like a ton of rocks!  She is so pretty, growing up, and now more than ever, I need to be sure and hold on to our relationship.  I have come up with a few things we all do together that make our relationship stronger.

Laugh: Laugh with your children daily, over and over!  It doesn’t matter what you laugh about.  Pick on dad because he looks funny. Okay, don’t pick on dad; tell little jokes.  You know your family.  What makes them smile?

Hug. Hug daily.  Do it just because you’ll be surprised by the smile it puts off.  There’s nothing better than your 13-year-old daughter hugging you because she still loves you or your 2-year-old because she missed you.  It’s the same all the way around: laughing long and hugging often.  Always hug your children before leaving.  Let them know you love them and miss them when you’re not with them.  If it’s not something you’re currently doing, start.  Your teenager might look at you like you’re crazy, but before you know it, everyone will offer a huge hug before they walk out the door.

Say I love you. Actions speak louder than words, but saying I love you is one of the most powerful and heartfelt things you can say.  If you love them, tell them!  My daughter told me once that she was getting too old to say I love you in front of her friends.  I tried to be understanding, but I guess this look came over me.  She told me she was just kidding, but I understand I was her age once too.  Which takes me to my next point!

Understand: It’s hard being a kid.  You remember, don’t you?  Wow, it’s worse now.  You have to wear these shoes and pants, blah blah blah, to be “cool.”.  It’s not the way it should be, but it is!  Understand what you’re children deal with, and do what you can to help them avoid being picked on.  There’s no, well, it’s too bad!  Being picked on sucks!  Don’t you remember?

Do something. There’s always something to do!  Go for a walk, watch movies, lay down in bed and watch some TV together, talk, play a game, lay out and look at the stars, and talk about your hopes and dreams. Yes, we really do that, and I learn so much about my oldest daughter that she doesn’t even realize it.  Small activities that involve talking with your children help you get to know them.  They change so fast; don’t get away from that small talk.  It’s hard sometimes; you head to work for 10 hours, come home, cook dinner, do homework, and life takes over.  Leave time to talk, do it while you’re cooking, and get creative.  Don’t lose communication with your children.

These things are all small things that take up hardly any time. Do them!  Time passes by, and before you know it, your child will be moving out!  Wow, where did all that time go?  Don’t live with what I should have; do it!  We’re part of who they become, and that’s serious stuff.  That’s the most important job I have ever been responsible for.  It’s more than putting a roof over their head, feeding, and bathing.  It’s understanding, being there, going out of your way, trusting, and loving unconditionally.

Being a parent is one of the most gratifying jobs, and sometimes the most stressful.  However, I believe that’s why the rewards are worth so much.  It’s those things that require work that mean the most.  I love my girls!

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